Is Your Marriage Under Spiritual Attack?

Jan 31

Make no mistake! Satan hates marriage, and every couple will come under spiritual attack. Because all great marriages still deal with times of anger.

The key is to choose the right battles and fight in the right way for your marriage. Be sure to fight against the true enemy instead of fighting against your spouse.

As you may have painfully discovered, anger can be detrimental to your marriage. An angry spouse’s negative attitude and behaviors can drain your energy, leave you feeling frustrated and unheard, and undermine not only your well-being but the health of the marriage. However, if you are able to deal skillfully with anger, your marriage can transform dramatically. Here are some effective strategies for dealing with anger in marriage.

De-escalate & Neutralize Emotions

When you try to control your spouse, they may become defensive and more uncooperative. Its the same if your spouse tries to control you.

If Satan can destroy marriages, he can destroy our entire society. Putting these tools into practice will help.

Be Assertive and Respectful

Acting assertively is the process of taking a position in which you are able to express your wants directly and respectfully while considering your spouse’s feelings wants as well. When you act and speak in an assertively respectful manner, you are confident, honest, and open. At the same time, by being assertive, you empower your spouse to take their share of responsibility.

Communicate Constructively, Understand & Validate

People often act in angry way because they think they are not being heard, not being taken seriously, or not being appreciated. They may feel disappointed and ignored.

Reflect On Your Actions And Try To Understand The Triggers

While marriages are constantly under attack, the good news is that we have been given authority over the enemy. We don’t have to fear the devil. We just have to understand that he’s real. He slithers into our lives through unresolved anger, through contempt, through the pain that divides us. He tries to deceive us about each other just like he did with Adam and Eve in the garden.

Take responsibility. To be responsible is to accept your role in being frustrated with an angry spouse and reflecting on what actions trigger their anger. It also means understanding what triggers you to behave the way you do. The more aware you become. the less reactive and more constructive you may become. The result may be greater well-being for you, your spouse, and your marriage.

When anger arrives in the middle of a conflict, don’t push the issue. Take a break! Then pick the right time and setting to talk it through. Set your conversation up for success by scheduling a mutually agreed upon time. Wait until your emotions are under control and your thoughts are clear. Start with affirmation. Make eye contact and say, “I love you and I’m committed to our marriage, can we talk about ___”. It’s so important to communicate your feelings and discuss what made you angry. Get in the habit of treating anger this way on a regular basis and you’ll never reach the point where it becomes toxic.

Are you up for the challenge? Set a regular time where you plan to discuss difficult topic. Don’t make it DAILY, and ONLY make it for a specific timeframe. Listen this is not a DATE NIGHT conversation but instead a DATE NIGHT DESTROYER! Remember this isn’t about who dominates the agenda or time. Willie and I will have these conversations on Thursday after we have set the topic on Monday. We also have a clear 1 hour stop time. If it still requires discussion then we set another time to discuss it further.

Finally, please know that Jesus gave you authority over the enemy. So use it and refuse to give the devil an inch of ground. You have the power to cast away his lies and stand on the truth of the WORD OF GOD!

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